As humans, we sometimes get carried away expecting so much from others, that we forget that we also have our part to play. In my life’s little journey so far, I have come to understand that life would be more enjoyable when we choose not to place so much expectation on others. We live life each day expecting so much from people and when these expectations are not met, we feel disappointed, crushed and sometimes heartbroken! Life really is not as difficult as we make it seem.
It is helpful for us to understand that there are as many personalities and ideologies in this world as there are many people; therefore, diversity is inevitable! As friends, husbands and wives, parent and child, colleagues, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, boss and employee and the list goes on……, we are not always likely to eye-to-eye. We have certain expectations of one another and when these expectations are not met, all manner of negativity may set in the relationship.
Have you ever thought of loving others no matter what? In the true sense of it, when expectations are not set, there won’t be room for disappointment and we can genuinely love people for who they are and not for what we can get from them. Rather than expect so much from others, why don’t we work at giving them our best. If everyone could operate on this principle, I bet this world would be a much better place! Learning to forgive even before you are hurt is another way to live a simple life. Before you go out each day, make up your mind to forgive that shopkeeper, customer, friend, agent, client, relative, student, teacher, bus driver, waiter, coach, boss, employee, colleague or stranger who is “waiting” to step on your toes!
We need to learn to focus more on giving self and not demanding self from others. Some people may be thinking: “Is it really possible to live life giving and not expect anything in return? Not even a “thank you”?” I would like to say yes it is! That is the place of love in every relationship. When we expect so much and depend on others, we give them room to hurt us and this may diminish our power to love.
Do you know the true test of love? It is the key to life and the essence of life itself. The Bible says it all in 1 Corinthians 13 vs 4-8a: “Love is patient and kind. It is not jealous and does not brag. Love is not proud and is not rude. It is not selfish and does not get upset with others. Love does not count up wrongs that have been done. It takes no pleasure in evil but rejoices over the truth. Love patiently accepts all things. It always trusts, always hopes and always endures. Love never ends!
Have you been let down so many times? Don’t give up on love, maybe it’s time you tried leaving out those vain expectations and just choose to love. As we work towards living life to the fullest, let’s try Leaving Out Vain Expectations. In two words, let’s LOVE